May Hope be the last thing I Loose

May Hope be the last thing I Loose - These were the words which I recently heard from one of my dear friend which actually inspired me to go ahead and share my thoughts on the same and write down a blog post. Its been sometime now that I havent penned down anything and was HOPING that I write something soon and so here I finally arrive with a topic to write.

'HOPE' - Its a very important word in everyone's life. Just imagine what the World would be like if we didn't have Hope? We always keep saying to our self - Hope I get admissions in Engineering, Hope She says a Yes to me some day, Hope I have taken a correct decision by saying yes to marry this girl, Hope I buy my own House one day, Hope my Dad is proud of what I have achieved in my Life, Hope this and hope that and these hopes just goes on in our life no matter whatever we had Hoped once; it has been fulfilled and achieved or it just remained Hopes and we were not able to achieve them for some reasons. We probably never give up on our Hopes and start living with a new Hope in life.

Sometimes very strong hopes can achieve the impossible as Hope can see the invisible and it can feel the intangible. I think that hope ends when you stop believing. For no matter how tough your days might be or how long your nights may be, if you still hold on to the love of hope that is within you, you'll have something precious to keep you going. Because it is not who you are, but it is what you believe about who you are that matters. It has been said that hope is an abstraction of the mind. When you believe in yourself, so will others and so will your future change. A brightness of hope is all that is required.

It often happens that you have a feeling in you that you very badly want something very special in your life. You have that special feeling in you that if that special is with you in your life then you would achieve all other things for it. You try your best to get that in your life but still not able to get it and you know all the right reasons for why you are not achieving it but you still believe in yourself and in your love for it and even atlast when the world says to you, Give up its High time now, Hope whispers - 'Try it one more time'.

Saying all of these I also believe that - "hope is both man’s greatest strength and man’s greatest weakness”. If what you hoped for to happen in your life doesn't happen for you then you often take a wrong path and this proves to be a man's greatest weakness. We should not be so weak to feel that we have lost everything in life by loosing what we hoped to happen for us. Instead hope for a new Hope in our life to get us going.

No matter how difficult the situation would be, no matter if anyone is with you or not, no matter you loose everthing in life but one thing you should not loose is Hope - A Hope to live your life to the fullest as you are the luckiest of the one who has got this life to live and you would never again get to live it again once it is over.

What a Women Really Wants

To women - Please take time to ponder...!
To men - Just enjoy the story...!

The Story Goes as...
Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighboring kingdom.. The monarch could have killed him but was moved by Arthur's youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer and, if after a year, he still had no answer, he would be put to death.

The question was: What do women really want?

Such a question would perplex even the most knowledgeable man. And to young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. But, since it was better than death, he accepted the monarch's proposition to have an answer by year's end.

He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everyone: the princess, the priests, the wise men, and even the court jester. He spoke with everyone, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer.

Many people advised him to consult the old witch, for only she would have the answer. But the price would be high as the witch was famous throughout the kingdom for the exorbitant prices she charged.

The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no choice but to talk to the witch. She agreed to answer the question, but first he would have to agree to her price.

The old witch wanted to marry Sir Lancelot, the most noble of the Knights of the Round Table, and Arthur's closest friend! Young Arthur was horrified. She was hunch-backed and hideous, had only one tooth, smelled like sewage, made obscene noises, etc.

He had never encountered such a repugnant creature in all his life.. He refused to force his friend to marry her and endure such a terrible burden.

But Lancelot, having learnt of the proposal, spoke with Arthur. He said nothing was too big of a sacrifice compared to Arthur's life. And the reservation of the Round Table. Hence, a wedding was proclaimed and the witch answered.

Arthur's question thus: 'What a woman really wants?'
She said, 'A woman wants to be in charge of her own life.'

Everyone in the kingdom instantly knew that the witch had uttered a great truth, and that Arthur's life would be spared. And so it was. The neighbouring monarch granted Arthur his freedom. And Lancelot and the witch had a wonderful wedding.

The honeymoon hour approached and, Lancelot, steeling himself for a horrific experience, entered the bedroom. But, what a sight awaited him. The most beautiful woman he had ever seen was sitting by the bed.

The astounded Lancelot asked what had happened. The beauty replied that since he had been so kind to her when she appeared as a witch, she would henceforth become her horrible and deformed self only half the time, and be the beautiful maiden the other half.

'Which would you prefer?' She asked him. 'Beautiful during the day .... or at night?'
Lancelot pondered the predicament.
During the day he could have a beautiful woman to show off to his friends,
but at night, in the privacy of his castle, an old witch!
Or,
Would he prefer having a hideous witch during the day?
But by night a beautiful woman for him to enjoy wondrous moments with?

(If you are a man reading this...) What would YOUR choice be?
(If you are a woman reading this...) What would YOUR MAN'S choice be?
And Lancelot's choice is given below...
BUT... please make YOUR choice first before you scroll down below... OKAY?

Knowing the answer the witch gave to Arthur for his question,
Sir Lancelot said that he would allow HER to make the choice herself.
Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the time..
Because, he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own life.
Now... what is the moral to this story?
The moral is...
1) There is 'witch' in every woman, no matter how beautiful she is !
2) If you don't let a woman have her own way, things are going to get ugly !

So, be careful how you treat a woman and always remember
IT IS EITHER ' HER WAY ' OR IT IS ' NO WAY ' !!

Destiny

Its been few days now that for some reason I want to write something on Destiny. I am been figuring out how should I start on this topic. I am going for a picnic with my friends in next 30 mins and thought let me not think on what I have to write on Destiny and just pen down whatever comes to my mind. May be what I am writing is not something I planned but its Destiny ;)

As we go through life, we all experience pain, hurts, adversity, wounds - sometimes self-inflicted, sometimes inflicted by others. The wounds that we suffer may be physical, emotional, spiritual, or financial. They may be small wounds that we can easily recover from or so devastating to us that it takes weeks, months or even years to fully recover. People respond in different ways to these wounds. Some people are so hurt and broken that they give up, surrendering to bitterness, self-pity and victim-hood, while others grow stronger and become better people because of the adversity and struggle they've fought their way through.

When I was a kid my mom used to always say that 'God' already has foreseen what is going to happen in your life. Some people might that think that's encouraging and that we're all part of a pattern. I don't know about that. If I die tomorrow by getting hit by a truck while crossing the road talking on phone while returning from my office, I don't want to know that my death was already written down and maybe guided in some way.'God' is waiting for you to cross that road, and for the driver was avoiding the obstacle but swirled to hit me. That my family and dear friends lifes and even the driver's life will be destroyed and ruined forever.

I'd rather die from my own stupidity for not looking at both the ways of the road and talking on the phone while crossing the road. Somehow, I don't like the idea about destiny. I prefer to think that our life depends on us and the decisions that we make in our present would lead into the destiny for our future.

We make choices every day. When we don't like the consequences of those choices, we're faced with another choice - that of changing direction, making a new choice and enjoying different consequences or staying stuck where we are. "Change is a door that can only be opened from the inside". "The willingness to change can be inspired by others but change itself is a personal choice. If you want to change something in you then its your own choice and no one else is responsible or depended for it. It is 'Choice' not 'Chance' that determines your destiny."

I'll end the post with the lines I had read somewhere which I would never forget - "Control your own destiny or someone else will, remember destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice".

School Buddies to Office Mates

This post is about three individuals who are now termed as '3 idiots' by their colleagues in the office for some strange things we do and we are known for. Its about me, Rohan and Pushkar. The 3 colleagues working in an Online Advertising Company named Logicserve.

But what is the big deal that I am writing about my office colleagues. I know you can write about them too but then what so special to write about them. It is special and this will be known when we read this post further.

10 years back I met Rohan at private classes when I was in my SSC and since then we became best friends. It was the time when it was me for him and he for me when there was anything to be shared and talked about. It may be studies, professors, school, friends or girls. But then with time and more friends things did change. We got parted after SSC as we got admissions in different colleges but still were in touch with each other even though we didn't even had a mobile phone that time. I know today we realise how important a mobile phone is.

2 years after SSC, we came back together in KC College as luckily I scored less marks in HSC and didn't got admissions for Engineering and had no choice but do a BSc IT course. One of the reasons why I selected BSc IT was that Rohan too had chosen BSc IT.

Then in 1st Semester we were joined by Pushkar and we became three from two. Then as time passed during our graduation years from Friends we became Good Friends and from Good Friends we were Best friends. We were known as one identity as others started to recognize us together.

We passed our graduation with good marks but luckily all three of us were not placed through college placements as we never attended campus placements and so for some reasons we decided to do MBA and started studying for the entrance exams. We cleared the entrance but unluckily got admissions in different Colleges.

Those 2 MBA years the contact was limited between the three of us. MBA studies made each other so much busy that we didnt had time for each other. MBA course ended and again luckily all three of us were not again placed through campus placements. I and Rohan had taken up a job till the time we get a job of our choice.

Rohan left his job in 3 months time and joined Logicserve and then luckily again there was a vacancy in logicserve and so me and Pushkar came into picture again and got selected in the same company.

Today we are again together. It’s a different feeling now to be termed as Office Colleagues from School Buddies. But no matter what others term you some relations would never change. Its been few months now in this company and we like the job, enjoy our work and are again being recognized together. Thanks to Logicserve to getting us together again. Work can't get better when you have your friends working along with you in the same company giving you company. I know that sounded confusing.

Even when we leave Logicserve after a successful career here(hopefully) I wish we continue in other companies together and this bond continues for years to come and we remain best friends forever.

Luck By Chance

I'm a great believer in luck and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it.

When you live for a strong purpose, then hard work isn’t an option. It’s a necessity.

Unless you are willing to drench yourself in your work beyond the capacity of the average man, you are just not cut out for positions at the top.

When you read on the above quotes written by some of the greatest philosophers we are all inspired by them and get on to work hard in our lives. Even though we decide that and we do really work hard in life to achieve the things we aimed there come instances in life when we sometimes look at an other person and say "How lucky He/She is. I wish I was like him/her". No matter how good life would be to us this thought comes to us sometime or the other for some of the aspect related to us. May thats because life is not perfect to us in all aspects. There would be something missing for all of us.

When we try to figure out what is it that makes one successfull - Luck or Hardwork? Preparation plays a vital important role in life success. When opportunity comes to a person who is prepared, he can take the opportunity. So if the luck knocks an unprepared mind, there is a high probability that he missed the opportunity and hence misses his luck.

A better word for Luck is opportunity. A person, who wants to learn more, who wants to accomplish something great in life, who focuses on only realizing his dreams, is bound to succeed and the right opportunity will definitely knock his door. We all get opportunities in our life sometime or the other and the ones who are able to grab those opportunities are the ones who are later sometimes termed as the LUCKY by the other who were not able to grab those opportunities. It is important being at the right place at the right time and I will add further WITH RIGHT KNOWLEDGE.

It is true that there might be many people who got success just of sheer luck. But since exceptions are not rules, we should not take these people as our role model as it is not necessary that if someone wins a game of poker and become millionaire, the same cards will open up for you too when you sit on the poker table.

If we are a student, we can do our best to concentrate on our studies and do as much hard work as we can and dont depend on luck saying the paper would be full of my favorite questions and I'll score without studying. If we are a college passout then we should give our best to crack the interview for the job which we always wanted to do with all the knowledge we have. If you are an employee, give your best to your job. If you have a dream to follow, start immediately on it.

Luck waits for no one. Before it comes, be prepared for it.

A Message to Remember...!

Recently a friend of mine sent me a very beautiful message which touched my heart as soon as I read it. The lines of the message said:

In life we all have an unspeakable secret
an irreversible regret
an unreachable dream
and an unforgetable love
But in the end its all about being
Happy anyhow.

There is something in this message that is very much connected to most of our lives. You cant stop living as something in life doesn't happen the way you wanted it to happen. Many times things don't go the way you want it to and you feel giving up on everything else just because of that one failure. A single not your way going incident in your life should not lead to not a single happy day after that.

When I read on in the newspaper headline that a student commits a suicide because he thinks he got less marks as per his parents expectation or when I come to know a friend of mine is no more in this world as he came under a train and died because the love of his life had to listen to her parents and marry someone else or when I see a father and a son not talking to each other all their life remembering not so good incidences in their life and forgetting all the other better moments they spent with each other and not understanding by not talking they are missing to be good moments of their present and future.

These things sound familiar to most of us. May be not and I really hope that they dont sound familiar to any one. I feel in such instances everyone of us has a choice. A choice to remember that one thing and regret for not making that one thing happen in your life or as the above message says a choice to still be happy and find alternatives to your failure on that one particular thing. I feel the 2nd choice sounds much more advisable. After all its not that difficult to stay happy.

May be there are few instances when you cant get over few things and feel sad about things not going your way but I guess there are solutions to get out of it. There are few things that you can do in times when you feel you are in deep pain and need help. May be a call to a friend would make you feel better or else meeting up a friend or may be your best friend can make your heart much more lighter. I dont read much but many of my friends say that books are your best friends so if you dont feel like calling or meeting up your friend you can turn to books and make them your best friend and feel better about your self.

May be better thing to do is to have faith in God and believe that whatever happens to us is written by God which is for our own good, it's just that we cannot see it now. There are many things in life apart from failures and we all should live forgetting the few bad moments in our life. When you get to live a life live it to the fullest so that few years down when you look back you dont have to turn back and say I should have enjoyed more and stayed a lot more happier than I did.

Staying sad is difficult but many of them choose to stay sad due to some regrets in life and staying happy is easier but still few instances makes it difficult for many of us to stay happy. As the above message states that no matter how unspeakable secret we have, how irreversible regret is there in our life, no matter how unreachable is our dream and how unforgetable love one has in the end we can always forget these things and remain and stay happy forever.

KEEP SMILING as it is the second best thing that you can do with your lips. I hope you understand what is the first best thing....! ;) ;) ;)

What is Happiness?

Recently a friend of mine asked me a simple question - What is happiness? for which I had to think for a while to answer it and when I didn't had answer to her question, I came up with some weird answer. This is a question which is bothering me for some time now, because I don't know how to answer it.

I know I may not be the only one on this earth who wouldn't be having a perfect answer to this question. We are happy for many many reasons in life. But in the eyes of all whom I know from my heart, I have found that there is always something missing.

Some people seem to be happy at all time in the life without much thinking about it. There are others who make so called being happy in life plans like “I’m going to have a beautiful wife, two children, and a big home where we four will live happily for years”. And the day they achieve it they feel they are the happiest. While this keeps them occupied, they are like bulls looking for the bullfighter: they don’t think, they just keep moving forward. They manage to get their what they desired, so they never ask the question. Yet, despite all that, their eyes betray a sadness that they themselves are quite unaware of.

May be I am sounding like everyone around is unhappy. So when you ask people around “What makes you happy?” They answer: “I have everything that a person can dream of – a family, a home, work, good health”. And then you again ask them: “Have you ever stopped to wonder if that is all there is to life?”. They answer: “Yes, that’s all there is”. So we can conclude that meaning of life is work, the family, children who grow up and leave you, a wife or husband who with time will become more like a friend than a true love-mate. And one day the work will come to an end. What will you do when that happens?”. And then we get an answer that there is no answer to it and they try to change the subject.

But there is a answer to it. Happiness is different for different individuals. Its different for the businessman who has still to close the deal he has always dreamed of, the housewife who would like to have more independence or more money, the new graduate who wonders whether he has chosen his career or has had it chosen for him, the software programmer who wanted to be a singer, the singer who wanted to be a writer, the writer who wanted to be a painter, and the painter who wanted to be a MBA graduate.

When I see the people I know, I see everybody are laughing, everybody very happy when they are together. Sometimes we know it is like that everyone is laughing or enjoying themselves at the moment that photo is taken, but at times when they are not together, the story is quite different.

When I was a kid a toffee that I got from my Dad on my results gave me so much of happiness, the girl in my school whom I liked smiled at me for the first time gave me happiness, as a college student a feeling of independence gave me happiness, as a graduate a well deserving job gave me the feeling of happiness. I guess happiness should be something which shouldn't change with time. It's a feeling which should be permanent irrespective of time.

As a child when I used to do anything good my mom used to say today you made God happy. That used to be the moment when I used to feel very happy for atleast that day. Even today I feel I have the same feeling when any of my good deeds makes me feel that I have made GOD happy that day even today I feel happy. Its a feeling which has remain permanent with time. I guess when we are sad we make God sad and when we are happy we make him happy.

The feeling of his existence makes us believe that no matter how difficult the way ahead is we will overcome it with all the happiness in life...

Give Me another chance I wanna Grow Up Once Again!!!

Give me some sunshine
Give me some rain
Give me another chance
I wanna Grow up once again.

As a child I always wanted to grow up as fast as possible and do all possible things which I could think of once I am a grown up. Today when I am grown up I feel how stupid was I(its another thing that I am still stupid) to feel like that. If I would had understood how complex things gets in life with age I would have never thought like that. Today I feel what if I can rewind my whole life, travel back in time, and do it all over once again. To see what would have happened if I had taken the other road. To see that what could have happened if I had said the right thing at the right time. To curiously find out what would have happened if I had said a NO instead of a YES. What if life had ‘Undo’ options and ‘Backspace’ keys, may be I would had logged in again for second chances.

Kandho ko kitabon ke bojh ne jhukaya
Rishwat dene to khud papa ne sikhaya
99% marks laaoge to gadi varna chhadi
Likh likh kar pada hatheli par alpha beta gamma ka chaala
Concentrated H2SO4 ne poora poora bachpan jalaa daala

As a child I was a nerdy kid who went to school with neatly oiled and combed hair (all thanks to my mom), who was always ranked very high in the books of my teachers (i feel so). As a child I always wanted to become an engineer. I don't understand did I even knew at that age what an engineer actually does and what different engineering fields exists. To be true for me an engineer was one who drives train's engine. I know it sounds too funny now. But what you learn as a child is engineers and doctors are the last thing that you can do in this world to survive and I too had that feeling(thanks to my parents and teachers) till some years of my school. For that studying hard was always necessary and I always use to study hard but with time and more matured age learnt to study smart then to study hard. What If I wouldnt had studied that hard. May be I would had got say maximum 10% marks less. What difference would it had made to get 70% instead of 80% in school days. May be my name wouldn't had beeen announced every annual day to get the prize for the best lot of students in that standard. But then may be my name would had been announced at other events like singing competitions, drawing competition, craft competition, etc etc.. which I liked to do but never did as studies were the priorities for me and my parents. 99% marks laaoge to gadi varna chhadi this line really goes very very well for my school days.

Getting into college was different feeling after a disciplined school life. There were no rules and regulations to be followed. The heart beated 1st time for someone but never had it that it would go on and express it to the heart for which it beated. What If I would had expressed my self with all the feelings in the heart may be the one whom the heart loved the most would had been along with the heart it loved (sounds too complicated I know).

Childhood went into studies and only studies and Teenage into finding what I actually want to do with my life. Today may be I have the answer to what I want from the life but whether I get it that the future will tell. But for the past may be if I get an another chance I will like to grow up again not because I regret the decisions I made in past as a kid, child or a teen but to see what the results would had been if I had taken the other path.